Treasuring my NO

I relate to many of my female clients when they share about the sexual shame they carry because of giving into a man’s request. Before I started doing parts work, I felt I had to give into anyones sexual desires because it was expected. Someone wanted something from me so lt felt like I was …

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Walking with instead of away

If anything is allowed than everything will heighten because #humanity is #searching for #significance and we do that through #relationships   If #we #believe that a #homosexual #lifestyle is worse than a #lustful #heterosexual one than we have #blinders on our #hearts and cannot #see the #behavior of another as s #symptom of a #deeper …

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Traditional templates condemn true transformation

The reason why you can still continue to smoke cigarettes after a prognosis of certain death is given, is because a part inside has used smoking as survival for so long that it can’t risk stopping because it believes it’s keeping you alive. You can apply this dynamic to any hangup, habit or need for …

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Who says I should pray one way?

We all bring our painful childhood experiences into adulthood and if we don’t heal them, we get triggered when a familiar experience pokes that old wound.  I don’t do well with lectures because I was spoken down to and yelled at while demands were made to listen to the same repeated rhetoric.  So while I …

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Lazy makes pride easy

I wonder sometimes if Christians are the laziest in getting through disagreements because they just hide behind a scripture wall to support their truth and shut down communication? They stamp the approval of their interpretation onto the situation which allows them to dismiss the other and just claim that what God has told them is …

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Nomadic Normalcy

I am in amazement that I was drawn to a CS Lewis clip because it was a sneaky way for the Lord to address the underlinings of my boredom and burnout with church life.  The headline read “healing the wound in your minds“ and yet it covered a topic completely unexpected. Even as I write …

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Rules and regs uphold condemnation

I’ve discovered that I lack compassion for myself, much less other people, and I think it comes from internal parts who believe that reminding me of my mistakes is going to motivate me to change for the better. I know from my line of work that those of us who are most critical outwardly begin …

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Intertwining thoughts

Lord God bring greater peace and the ability to hear your voice clearly, open the secret treasures to me, and bring me the rich inheritance that you gave me in a dream as a child, renew my strength so I can grasp and hold onto those beginning deposits of my destiny. Make my calling more …

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What denominates commonality?

Stop and think before you label yourself as being the “common denominator” in most situations. Instead, ask yourself, “am I outnumbered by people who don’t really get me?” More often than not, we try to explain ourselves to people who frustrate us because deep down, we know they aren’t really listening to our heart. You …

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His wanton spoke loud

You know you should have ended the date when he picked you up and said he had sex with a chic before they even left the house for their first date 40 years ago. That’s four decades of cherishing that rendevous, what happened to his marriage in between? He may have seemed like a mourning …

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