Everyone has an internal family system waiting to let go of beliefs and lies that promote sibling rivalry between its parts. Arguments inside your system stem from polarized viewpoints on a subject much like a brother and sister conflicting with each other in the outside world. For every disconnect in relationship there is a part of you that holds onto that rift and goes into protection mode so you don’t re-live it.  The unspoken judgments you make about yourself or others outwardly, are compartmentalized to parts that continue to rival inwardly. The hurt you experienced imprints on your brain and established an expectation for its repeat.  A response might be to stop talking to your sister which manages the rejection, but a reaction to gossip about her could arise from a guilt part who cut things off. Rather than scolding yourself for sin, God wants to unburden the sting of it, one protective part at a time because only He knows when it started, where it embedded in your body and spirit and why you cope that way.  This is the importance of allowing our brains to function as God planned, and heal thyself.  Our inner most being is where Holy Spirit resides and it is capable of immense transformation when we learn that parts of us destroy connection in our everyday routine because they think they have to. Those parts perform on our behalf when we don’t live up to the expectations of our household and we have to cope with disappointing parents who have their own issues with their parents.  An absentee father is a big deal, he could have been present but emotionally unattached.  Or he could have been your abuser which shaded all relationships thereafter because trust in SELF was disconnected and the parts who helped during the assault, overpower your actions from that point on.  Patterns of action that continuously react to that original trauma have historically anchored themselves for survival. For who and what we couldn’t control in our childhoods, parts of us have fought back and aided us through forming either cautionary or self-defeating behavior.  But Daddy God calls us to abundant life.  There is more.  There is always more.  The parts of yourself that you judge and dislike really were created to help you when you were powerless and pained.  Now is the opportunity to get to know their stories in order to set them free.