Squid aren’t 50 shades of grey

I'm really shocked that some of my neighboring therapists believe that sadistic and masochistic behavior is up to the consent of a person who would have a sound mind.  We are in the business of healing childhood memories where the dis-connection to intimacy, safety, communication and identity began, so why would we think the movie, …

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Svengali wears a cowboy hat 2/22

Something happens on the inside when you know you're walking on shaky ground but don't necessarily have to be. It's that lump in your throat and the heat that surfaces on your chest when you lie to yourself and proceed in a relationship that is screaming "caution". Nothing about the guy is transparent or quantifiable …

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my mom in male form

Something about that dynamic between two people, where one executes all of the power through maltreatment of the other, didn't fit for me anymore as an adult. It just feels mean and creates fear in me because I can't be myself around him.  Here I am again, disturbed as soon as he left because I …

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