Calm for the nervous system

I declare that my autonomic nervous system will align with heaven where my window of expectation is optimal. I trust that calm arousal will balance out the hyper states of fight or flight and hypo states of freeze and collapse, so I can regulate my hypothalamus and pituitary as well as the amygdala and prefrontal …

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The 3 R’s

Codependency breeds resentment, resistance and revenge from parts who were victimized and learned to silence a person for survival. Not saying anything or going along with another person for the sake of ease can build avoidance of one’s true needs which produces the 3 R’s within her internal family system. These parts are trying to …

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Housing my thoughts

Entry to my soul may appear to be dismal and bleak as I walk through the archway, but it really is an encasing to narrow the way inside without distraction from moving forward. Much like my life, the anticipation of addressing what is on the other side of desire can be a consequence or lighted …

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Traditional templates condemn true transformation

The reason why you can still continue to smoke cigarettes after a prognosis of certain death is given, is because a part inside has used smoking as survival for so long that it can’t risk stopping because it believes it’s keeping you alive. You can apply this dynamic to any hangup, habit or need for …

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What denominates commonality?

Stop and think before you label yourself as being the “common denominator” in most situations. Instead, ask yourself, “am I outnumbered by people who don’t really get me?” More often than not, we try to explain ourselves to people who frustrate us because deep down, we know they aren’t really listening to our heart. You …

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We attach to survive

Before we make sense of the world, the world shapes our mind. If what we take in through our senses conveys to our brain that we don’t have safety or acceptance in the world, we conclude negative things about who we are in it. Nurture begins the day we are birthed and it can greatly …

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You have to choose You

https://youtu.be/OxJU2iV2g80 You have to choose looking within for your own emotional healing. The parts inside of you that cause “bad behavior” which then causes you to judge yourself, are stuck in history and reliving the past. An update is required for the sum of your parts to realize that you are no longer in danger …

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Compassion when in conflict

Everyone has suffered and life is hard, there will not be an escape from the storms. How you go through them however, can make or break you. I have lived through severe circumstances that left me for dead, but my Internal Family System fought for my survival on my behalf. I want to share my …

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Disarmed

“Those exposed to acute and chronic stress by their childhood conditioning, lost their ability to engage in the necessary fight or flight behavior, and were impaired as a result. It left them open as targets for illness. The fundamental problem is not the external stress, such as the life events where tragedy arose, but an …

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