Disarmed

“Those exposed to acute and chronic stress by their childhood conditioning, lost their ability to engage in the necessary fight or flight behavior, and were impaired as a result. It left them open as targets for illness. The fundamental problem is not the external stress, such as the life events where tragedy arose, but an …

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Starving from disorders

Chronic pain has been an issue in my life on such a profound level that it was exasperated by an eating disorder, or did the eating disorder invite the chronic pain? It is the chicken or the egg cleche of which came first, but after working with others who have an aversion to bodily acceptance, …

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You are more than your parts

Wow, when your emotions take a tumbling through life, it is powerful to learn how IFS Therapy can empower one to heal the past. Praying that I can couple Christianity and counseling through this model in a way that heals others who have been wounded from church practices. So much of “bad behavior” has been …

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Surrender to save your heart, The Moth

I have always told stories since I was a little girl.  It wasn't until recently that I discovered performing your story before a live audience was a real deal.  This was created for me, the actress who never hit the silver screen but had numerous inquiries if I was famous.  Maybe it's the name Angie …

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Everyone eventually leaves

I have always joked that I am my own worst enemy. I hear a lot of people chime in with agreement of that statement, especially if they are able to get in touch with their emotions. I'm certain that those who have spent years of dissociating, have foundational reasons for covering up their feelings, it …

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What will self-criticism make you?

I have struggled with critical self-talk just as much as the next guy, but I was only familiar with how it sounded to me.  My harsh treatment towards myself was all I ever knew, it was my norm to berate my decisions and assume the sky was falling in every circumstance I couldn't control.  It …

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Start from the beginning

"Gangs, group activists, or any movement seeking recognition of its own kind, will offer a new family for one who has not received love or acceptance in his own home. They provide the follower with new people to worry about him, to offer him advice, to cry with him, and importantly, to hold him and …

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Socialization strips the Spirit

Thoughts become mindsets that were modeled to us and formed by the age of 7. It is basically socialization, which teaches us to assume there is something wrong with me, to focus on our flaws, to judge the flaws when we find them, to hate ourselves for being the way we are, to punish ourselves …

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The innocence of intimacy

“When my daughter was about six, we were riding in the car on our way to visit friends and she told me she wanted to be my lover.  I knew her concept of lover was somewhat fuzzy, but she had enough idea to feel she wanted that.  I responded gently that it wasn’t possible.  She …

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Love and therapy

For most of my life I have felt like second best, always striving to earn acceptance and love. I don't believe I am alone in this which is why I use my testimonies as a platform to relate to others. In my search for significance I have sought therapy from a number of sources. My …

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