Calm for the nervous system

I declare that my autonomic nervous system will align with heaven where my window of expectation is optimal. I trust that calm arousal will balance out the hyper states of fight or flight and hypo states of freeze and collapse, so I can regulate my hypothalamus and pituitary as well as the amygdala and prefrontal …

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The 3 R’s

Codependency breeds resentment, resistance and revenge from parts who were victimized and learned to silence a person for survival. Not saying anything or going along with another person for the sake of ease can build avoidance of one’s true needs which produces the 3 R’s within her internal family system. These parts are trying to …

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You don’t love in pieces

We can heal in many ways when our focus is on a higher power to stabilize our internal emotions. When human love leaves us confused or disconnected, a spiritual awakening is often at our doorstep. Where have we walked alone and did it protect us from being triggered? In new encounters the rush can be …

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Loving inside, Neighborly outside

WE are told to love our neighbors as ourselves, but the problem is most of us don’t even like who we are and we see others through the same lens and lack the capacity to love anyone. If I find a problem with most people, I know it is because I’m not loving myself. I …

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Treasuring my NO

I relate to many of my female clients when they share about the sexual shame they carry because of giving into a man’s request. Before I started doing parts work, I felt I had to give into anyones sexual desires because it was expected. Someone wanted something from me so lt felt like I was …

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Traditional templates condemn true transformation

The reason why you can still continue to smoke cigarettes after a prognosis of certain death is given, is because a part inside has used smoking as survival for so long that it can’t risk stopping because it believes it’s keeping you alive. You can apply this dynamic to any hangup, habit or need for …

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We attach to survive

Before we make sense of the world, the world shapes our mind. If what we take in through our senses conveys to our brain that we don’t have safety or acceptance in the world, we conclude negative things about who we are in it. Nurture begins the day we are birthed and it can greatly …

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inquiry of parts

It may be perfect timing for you to grab “me” time and find out what was going on before your most current struggle.  I do not go over history or experiences because my role is to turn you inward to hear the voice of God in each and every memory where pain originated and on …

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You have to choose You

https://youtu.be/OxJU2iV2g80 You have to choose looking within for your own emotional healing. The parts inside of you that cause “bad behavior” which then causes you to judge yourself, are stuck in history and reliving the past. An update is required for the sum of your parts to realize that you are no longer in danger …

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