Parts that hold bitter-root judgments

This explains how we will connect to our emotional parts within our Internal Family System to receive prayer when we are facing long standing bitterness or offense.  On one hand forgive the person for what did or did not do. On the other hand forgive yourself for hating and judging them To incorporate the healing …

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Love around to me

I realized as I was reflecting on my own disillusionment with dating and plutonic relationships that I always felt safer in one that was non-committal and never trusted consistency in another, but both were lies that told me to keep searching for the perfect "one". It wasn’t until I heard a message that explained one …

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Forgiving Your Judas

I'm pretty sure everyone has heard of the story where Judas betrayed Jesus. Most of us have a similar story of being betrayed by the primary people in our lives which in most cases, are our parents. The unspoken truths about beliefs resonate deep within our psyche when we are too young to express our …

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codependency is nurtured

Our society has been overtaken by codependency because it always takes root generationally. When we need to persuade, influence or control others so that our internal emotions can calm down, we have lost our self. We are not responsible for how others behave or react to our behavior because everyone misbehaves at times. To recognize …

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We are in preparation

I was in the thick of emotional turmoil last January facing the predicted ending of a relationship with an addict.  I had lost myself and was desperately trying to gain new ground and stand on my own two legs for stability.  I was dreaming every night and journaling every day hoping to make sense out of …

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The Judge

"It's amazing how movies can do that, lure you right into someone else's pain as it tears down your walls for the actors relationships while making your own vulnerable.  Your breath slows as you wait for every argumentative word to pack a punch of climatic ridicule and then you gasp when both people really shutter …

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Trouble with the Curve

This two and a half movie clip is about the questions many of us ask when we are abandoned, rejected, misunderstood or confused because of another person's response to us.  Particularly, when adult children address their parents about an issue they grew up questioning, the response is much like what we see in Clint Eastwood's …

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