The 3 R’s

Codependency breeds resentment, resistance and revenge from parts who were victimized and learned to silence a person for survival. Not saying anything or going along with another person for the sake of ease can build avoidance of one’s true needs which produces the 3 R’s within her internal family system. These parts are trying to …

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Treasuring my NO

I relate to many of my female clients when they share about the sexual shame they carry because of giving into a man’s request. Before I started doing parts work, I felt I had to give into anyones sexual desires because it was expected. Someone wanted something from me so lt felt like I was …

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Compassion when in conflict

Everyone has suffered and life is hard, there will not be an escape from the storms. How you go through them however, can make or break you. I have lived through severe circumstances that left me for dead, but my Internal Family System fought for my survival on my behalf. I want to share my …

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Disarmed

“Those exposed to acute and chronic stress by their childhood conditioning, lost their ability to engage in the necessary fight or flight behavior, and were impaired as a result. It left them open as targets for illness. The fundamental problem is not the external stress, such as the life events where tragedy arose, but an …

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Circling Circumstances

I think it is wild how the prophetic words I get have about a 10 year manifestation period. I started quoting from Corrie tenBoom years ago and bought the book as gifts. Not suddenly, but appearing as suddenly, everyone is circulating quotes. I’m understanding it is because The Lord wants me to pray for the …

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Dysmorphic Identity

As an incest survivor and spending my whole life in and out of treatment for an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, I now counsel others who suffer from complex trauma. Most of my clients had terrorizing childhoods and almost all suffered a breech in personal boundaries through touch. If a child can't protect itself, it …

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Therapy for the sinful parts

Psychologically feeding the needs of readers through the written word. I have crossed state lines and country borders to study family and human behavior in hopes of healing my own complex trauma. Without fear of using my own stories and experiences to highlight the topics that most choose to deny, my journey of healing has …

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Lives spared from speed

I was going to skip my hyperbaric visit since it is a 4 hr ordeal but I thought I would give it one last try, and indeed it will be. The traffic is so scary, talk about changing lanes, but one hour each way dodging semi-trucks is more stress on my body that I’m trying …

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Parts of me fear the evening

Task Master Part: "Well I have all these ideas during the day and get so emotionally exhausted at night because if I'm not productive during the day I feel like a loser". Distracted Part: "But the sun always calls me and summer is hard for me to focus inside when the warmth comforts". Risk Part: …

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