Healers need protectors

Healers need to date protectors. Healers need to be vulnerable and curious and lean into the protectors who lead safely into truth and transparency. Both need each other and can be for the other what God has called them to demonstrate. Ask and you shall receive, the companionship of one who walks in tandem with …

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Forgiving Us

Don’t grab what God hasnt granted. Our biggest messes occur when we help God bring about some thing that we want, especially in the area of relationships. I have done it so many times where I had an interest in somebody and cultivated expectation in my mind of his ability to be for me what …

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Man and Woman created

When the topic of relationship is brought up, most people can admit that nothing is as it seems until time has been invested, and for many that can be too late. Too late to spare one's feelings, get back time or see how we blew past red flags in the beginning. It wasn't until I …

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Through friends eyes

The easiest way to not waste your time on the dating scene is to seek the love found in your closest friends, and apply that to a life partner. It will cut the time wasted on potential men who lack empathy, expression and accountability, in half. This year, I discovered girl friends who helped me …

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Fail spectatularly

Fall on your face and fail spectacularly because when you fail you learn, when you fail you live. I so desperately want to keep this past chapter of my life open for the possibilities that I held out for, for the hope that all of my investment would pay me back in dividends and deposit …

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Dating a dissociative

Daddy always knows what I need.  I believed I needed to have a partner move with me to the South for close proximity to observe a lifestyle that could have easily been hidden through distance.  I had trust issues and knew the emotional distance I was able to concoct in order to survive deep interaction …

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Vulgarity in verbalizations

I have never been a fan of vulgar language and have walked away from many females taking part in such verbalizations because it hurts my soul. After all, we aren't born talking trash or even knowing what half the crude stuff being said even means until someone teaches us. How do we learn how to …

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Trust when a guy seeks sex.

Ladies, please trust a guy who says he only wants to have a sexual relationship. At least he is being honest about something even though it may persuade you to try to win his heart through sex. Don't fall for that either. Compromising your convictions to lay down with someone for the sake of being …

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Three criteria for a mate

Three criteria come up for me when I consider who NOT to date. I'm getting better at sniffing out who isn't compatible with me based on the suffering I have already lived through. Let's face it none of us are getting any younger so with each day that passes by, it is important to store …

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