Can’t report what isn’t known

Many people don’t consider a parent’s rage as being abnormal because living through it is their normal. Many don’t consider physical abuse as being abnormal because living through it is their normal. Many don’t consider their parent abandoning them, never knowing them or scapegoating them is neglect, because unfortunately it is all they know. Every …

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Dysmorphic Identity

As an incest survivor and spending my whole life in and out of treatment for an eating disorder and body dysmorphia, I now counsel others who suffer from complex trauma. Most of my clients had terrorizing childhoods and almost all suffered a breech in personal boundaries through touch. If a child can't protect itself, it …

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Where spiritual oppression starts

Oppression is an easier word to digest than abuse, all we have to do is try to promote this message on social media and it gets flagged for being offensive. Yet, the mere idea of abuse is offensive, especially to anyone who has suffered from it during childhood development. My journey is peppered with a …

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codependency is nurtured

Our society has been overtaken by codependency because it always takes root generationally. When we need to persuade, influence or control others so that our internal emotions can calm down, we have lost our self. We are not responsible for how others behave or react to our behavior because everyone misbehaves at times. To recognize …

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You are more than your parts

Wow, when your emotions take a tumbling through life, it is powerful to learn how IFS Therapy can empower one to heal the past. Praying that I can couple Christianity and counseling through this model in a way that heals others who have been wounded from church practices. So much of “bad behavior” has been …

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God don’t make Garbage

I always say, “God don’t make trash” which means he doesn’t give the birth defects, the autism, the gay gene, the vehement temper, the addiction, anxiety disorders, depression or disease we suffer with, because we are knit together perfectly in our mothers womb. And every single one of us shot out of a woman's womb.  …

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Jumping into someone else’s business

I think I get into a tizzy with myself so often because I make myself follow through on my word even though half the time I discovered that my committment was premature. There I said it, and that my friends wraps up my whole live in a nutshell, hence proving that I am non-committal as …

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Systematic Dependencies

I like to identify with the apostle Paul and boast in my weaknesses.  I do this because I’m not ashamed to boast in my Daddy’s strength.   I knew I always needed help in life, I just didn’t realize I needed a Savior to get it.   My many weaknesses took me down a road paved with …

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Unwanted children attract Spiritual strife

Have you gone to the Doctor and filled out a medical form before?  Most of us have, and the questions asked usually help the Doctor detect if you have predisposition to certain ailments based on generational lines from either one of your parents.  Psychologists usually start with questions pertaining to your background and surroundings that …

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