Walking with instead of away

If anything is allowed than everything will heighten because #humanity is #searching for #significance and we do that through #relationships   If #we #believe that a #homosexual #lifestyle is worse than a #lustful #heterosexual one than we have #blinders on our #hearts and cannot #see the #behavior of another as s #symptom of a #deeper …

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Repetition Compulsion in Relationships

In seeing that I was failing miserably in my closest relationship I began reading up on cognitive distortions.  Repetition Compulsion is a distortion in thinking that seeks comfort in the familiar which is the desire to return to an earlier state of things even if the thought or pattern was destructive.  This cycle has been …

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no more condemnation

Here I am emotionally exposed to the person I once was just a year ago and recognizing how much I have grown.  I almost can't believe it, that I'm able to pray for my spirit and to pray down the anxiety that wants to well up inside of me and condemn me.  I think of …

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Forgiving Us

Don’t grab what God hasnt granted. Our biggest messes occur when we help God bring about some thing that we want, especially in the area of relationships. I have done it so many times where I had an interest in somebody and cultivated expectation in my mind of his ability to be for me what …

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Speak up, a poem

I find myself being quiet to avoid confrontation because my parents were scary when I was small and there was not allowance for my expression. Funny though, because last night at work I got written up for speaking my opinion. I have fought hard for the healing of my internal system and many parts have …

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Man and Woman created

When the topic of relationship is brought up, most people can admit that nothing is as it seems until time has been invested, and for many that can be too late. Too late to spare one's feelings, get back time or see how we blew past red flags in the beginning. It wasn't until I …

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Dating a man with Mommy issues.

I always circle back to dating topics because love makes the world go round, unless of course a guy has mommy issues.  This is where you put your big girl pants on and use the data given in the beginning stages to not invest in a relationship where you have to dumb yourself down for …

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Squid aren’t 50 shades of grey

I'm really shocked that some of my neighboring therapists believe that sadistic and masochistic behavior is up to the consent of a person who would have a sound mind.  We are in the business of healing childhood memories where the dis-connection to intimacy, safety, communication and identity began, so why would we think the movie, …

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Should you follow your heart?

Serpents have a way of suggesting that your instincts should be questioned.  Adam and Eve basically doubted themselves and God as soon as the slithering tactics of enticement lured them into following their hearts toward desire.  Directions were given and all they had to do was stick with the plan so nobody would get their …

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