Repetition Compulsion in Relationships

In seeing that I was failing miserably in my closest relationship I began reading up on cognitive distortions.  Repetition Compulsion is a distortion in thinking that seeks comfort in the familiar which is the desire to return to an earlier state of things even if the thought or pattern was destructive.  This cycle has been …

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The Crazymakers

If I had a dollar for every female that approached me with accusation of needing attention, I would be able to erect my own mega church. The most hurtful thing about that declaration is that it couldn’t be further from the truth. In fact, I know from working with so many teenagers that their mothers …

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You have to choose You

https://youtu.be/OxJU2iV2g80 You have to choose looking within for your own emotional healing. The parts inside of you that cause “bad behavior” which then causes you to judge yourself, are stuck in history and reliving the past. An update is required for the sum of your parts to realize that you are no longer in danger …

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Compassion when in conflict

Everyone has suffered and life is hard, there will not be an escape from the storms. How you go through them however, can make or break you. I have lived through severe circumstances that left me for dead, but my Internal Family System fought for my survival on my behalf. I want to share my …

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Relating to your “reminders”

There is more right going on inside of you than wrong. I know it’s been a habit that you react a certain way, or have become accustomed to behaving badly at moments, but those routines are often wrapped up in criticism. Reminding ourselves of what we’re doing wrong or should be doing better, just gives …

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Silencing demonic oppression at Asbury

Demons be there but the soul of a person can still be reached.  We all have demons we bring into salvation which is why Jesus moved in the power of SOZO to save, deliver and heal which is wholeness.  I appreciated the atmosphere of worship at Asbury University because it is the beginning of The …

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Parts that hold bitter-root judgments

This explains how we will connect to our emotional parts within our Internal Family System to receive prayer when we are facing long standing bitterness or offense.  On one hand forgive the person for what did or did not do. On the other hand forgive yourself for hating and judging them To incorporate the healing …

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Social media made me do it

I think people give social media too much credit for determining #gender and #eating habits because the #truth of the matter is that confusion concerning those topics, always begins in the home. If there is no #allowance for #expression than a child turns inward. If there is sexual abuse, #identity is breeched and becomes a …

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Never tell a narcissist your truth

Narcissism is a real buzzword thanks to the help of social media defining it and bringing it to the surface. For those of us who are well acquainted with the term because of childhood upbringing, it’s validating to know that other people are becoming aware of their similar sufferings. Before I moved to the south, …

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