Codependency breeds resentment, resistance and revenge from parts who were victimized and learned to silence a person for survival. Not saying anything or going along with another person for the sake of ease can build avoidance of one’s true needs which produces the 3 R’s within her internal family system. These parts are trying to protect the person from pain and believe that making other people happy will bring happiness for them. This creates fear over inter-dependence because they believe others are untrustworthy. When we send compassion and honor to these parts who behave internally with resentment, resistance and revenge, they calm down and can trust us to puck safe people to be in relationship with. Victimhood is a path toward inner healing once we realize it isn’t serving our nervous system or relationships anymore.