There are so many variations of godliness according to woman’s interpretation of Biblical mention, that it would be safer for all females to not ask each others opinion on the matter. I am convinced that Christianese has usurped all ability for church going gals to trust their own relationship with Christ when deciding if a male is dateable or not. We turn to each other and give novel length explanations for why he is a good man because he attends Sunday service weekly but negate how he creeps about bar scenes and dating apps the rest of the week. If he meets aesthetic desires and others find him easy on the eyes that only heightens our struggle to think like a dude and stay disengaged, and that is exactly how the enemy perverts the differences in gender behavior that God created for curiosity.

We have no business as women to give account for the godliness a male exhibits when a friend has a check in her spirit. In hopes to encourage patience and peace, so many discussions have gone on repetitively to discourage a girl from leaving potential when he has proven prowess of many others in a public congregation. It isn’t rocket science to see him solo every other outing and quantify that he is dating unless our bestie has an interest and wants to take center stage. Be it as it may, if he isn’t the settling down type, encourage her to just meet up with him at Sunday school or the dance floor for a kiss, but don’t encourage both.

Come on ladies, we already know the Tom, Dick and Harry’s who peruse the coffee bar before the contemporary worship in hopes of snagging their next date. These types are typical, mentioning their service inside the church walls and economic success outside of them. Yet when a girlfriend of ours gets caught up in his vagueness and no account for whereabouts as she longs for commitment from him, we make statements to further confuse by telling her to hope God will change his heart.

To guard our heart is the only possible remark we should be quoting because discernment would already be helping that girl out. We know when something isn’t adding up because it is then that we turn to each other and scrounge up answers to questions we cannot offer because he simply is not Godly. For one woman to pacify the inconsistencies of a religious man to another female tells me that intuition has left the conversation. Our Daddy in heaven looks at His daughter’s with fierce protection for their honor and dignity to stay intact and it would be against His will to concoct a storyline that a man going through the motions will become a different creature. Those suggestions come from the camp of compromise where attitude is about appearances that lack the power to sustain relationships that will bring heaven to earth. You can support the notion that a man who is godly will remain teachable, but when discernment already tells one of you that his religion is a prison from his freedom, talk wisdom and encourage prayer for surrender.

Let that sister be concerned and listen to the proof she brings that he doesn’t edify, lift up and encourage her. Point out that he isn’t committing because of something lacking integrity within his own walk and encourage her to walk away from hoping against hope that she could be the one who changes him. There is no such transformation for a religious man, his life is his own which is why the chase is his focus of both claiming a prize and getting away with it unscathed. He need not submit to anything because his pride calls the shots and has him brag about his charitable actions.

Instead, champion the woman who aligns with Jesus as her husband and detects that a Godly man will act like Him. When she is trusting that the fella lacks character she would need to follow him, encourage her to cut the cord. Should a sound mind be evident when she shares of her dreams and purpose that a religious man can’t get behind, pay attention and link arms because the lesson is for both ladies; admire the courage of a chic with faith who will not compromise her first love. Should the two of you witness a Godly man’s behavior through the conversations you share about him, both grow in their awareness of a man’s spirit representing the holiness of a loving Father. And that proof of godliness will strengthen all the relationships privy to it, to witness how trust and love unfold through a man after God’s own heart.