For the number of children who are conceived out of a hook up, one night stand, assault, drunken mistake, or the act of pure lust, the result is their suffering, and usually on a myriad of levels that we define as abuse. In reality, the women who regret the night of sex, invite a litany of shame, fear and guilt which floods her system, which can automatically create a trauma bond with the embryo.  Nobody describes an already traumatized female as having choices because for many abortion is the only option for survival. I have worked with CASA and agencies who help mothers adjust emotionally after an abortion and I have worked with doctors who are integral in their healing both pre and post operation.  I also know doctors with credentials and reputation who stand against abortion yet cheat the insurance companies of their patients without batting an eye. 

Do we ever really know another person’s backstory? Do we know why we even do the things that we do? Before judging, rallying, blaming, lecturing or religiously abusing those involved in any aspect of an abortion think about your own morals and standards.  Does the  demand for your principals  to be upheld makes you intolerant of another person‘s choices? If so, then ask yourself why? Do you know his or her childhood experiences, struggles up to this moment, emotional drive leading up to the decision, grieving gone unmet, her health, his fear driven motivations, their unhealed abuse? So you don’t know what could have been going on behind closed doors except the proof of pregnancy. Yet you may have a story that may be founded in enough shame that you were willing to get rid of evidence and reminders of bad choices? Nobody knows the details of another persons story but them and God. The truth of the gospel says that all things are redeemable, and that mercy leads to repentance.  Remember that shame and guilt drive all of us, no one is exempt, and even this clip reveals the heaviness of having to do something for the greater good when it isn’t publicly or politically popular. Research always proves that a prerequisite to  promiscuity or falling into the arms of the wrong person at the wrong time comes from being unwanted, in the way, neglected, or abused when they were children. It would make sense that these young females would opt for abortion because they’re already traumatized. It would also make sense that as Christians we would offer them the truth that says they can be forgiven and set free.  As an act of love, it is always best to hear somebody’s story, extend them empathy and walk with them through the aftermath of their decision. I know plenty of us who have always done this and will continue to do so because it’s not up to me to tell somebody else what to do. The power I have to execute as a believer is to offer healing for those who believe choices are limited as they were when children.  Bringing freedom is allowing people to fall down and find new ways to get back up with help from others who don’t condemn them and direct them toward change. I have witnessed many of them find restoration and forgiveness.  And I  can guarantee you that they turn around and positively impact others who have suffered in the same ways they have.