sobriety #cleansing #letgo #washaway #forgiveness #wholeness #transformation #sobergirl #sober #soberlife #boundaries #nomore #codependency #recovery #transparency #self #partsunknown #parts #faith #accountability #nomorelies #influencer #traumasurvivor #childhoodabusesurvivor #memories #ifstherapy Part by part came forward over the past two years to reveal why they looked forward to a glass of wine to unwind each night. I had to listen, feel, cry and discuss with each conflicting view that had a viable argument inside of me. The #religious parts always made me confess and start all over through #abstinence of drinking but #resentment parts would rise up the next day. When I allowed curiosity of self to weigh the pros and cons without condemnation for #addictive behaviors, they stopped bullying me into behaving “better”. I honored the process of six weeks on and six weeks off, having to drink during the holidays or wanting to heighten the mundane routine I was living. Then I prayed for the last few parts to have a coming to Jesus moment and trust that something could be exchanged for wine, and then they softened. It has been 3 intentional months of choosing a sober life and to my astonishment it has been effortless because my parts were tired of surviving in the same habits. Once they tasted and saw that life is good even in the midst of struggle, they strengthened through rest. I use IFS Therapy in my daily life because it is sustainable and applauds the tired parts inside of me when they surrender to a lighter burden. The great exchange of a negative behavior through a brain pathway allows a more positive role to replace it. May we all know the power of change if we are willing to look deep within ourselves and find out why we do what we do.