I think people give social media too much credit for determining #gender and #eating habits because the #truth of the matter is that confusion concerning those topics, always begins in the home. If there is no #allowance for #expression than a child turns inward. If there is sexual abuse, #identity is breeched and becomes a precursor to eating disorders and gender identity. I have to explain that the food and sex cycle of shame and guilt are related because they produce the same surges of chemicals in the brain. If sex can be held at a standstill than the need to medicate with food will rise and vise-versa. My anecdote to my client is validation of her experiences and I explain that #food would be a natural thing to control because chaos in the home created the need to do so. Wishing them well doesn’t always happen when #parents are afraid of being found out, so my trust remains in my clients learning they are not defined by their #eating disorder parts or their behavior. I teach them to return to life outside of sessions by addressing their emotional parts when #conflict arises. They are equipped to ask for space from parts within them that have been silenced and erupt when triggered. The truth will come out one way or another because our parts within have reason to “act out” as they do. Our internal family system however, is far too complex and ingrained for social media to be it’s foundation, for how we perceive things in society must first be programmed through our parents, the destruction just accelerates when kids look outside of themselves for love and acceptance in cyberspace because they are starving for it at home.