Many people don’t consider a parent’s rage as being abnormal because living through it is their normal. Many don’t consider physical abuse as being abnormal because living through it is their normal. Many don’t consider their parent abandoning them, never knowing them or scapegoating them is neglect, because unfortunately it is all they know. Every child knows that sexual abuse feels icky but most never have safe enough parents to tell and that makes fear their normal. Over 70% of the population is in need of compassion toward their experiences because they haven’t assessed the truth of their abuse. The reason why so many then find another trauma victim to date and/or marry is because strife and confusion is more normal than doing life with inner peace. The reason why most don’t report what has happened to them is because it steals their identity and shapes them into someone they were never intended to be, and their normal becomes survival. The hope is that a new standard will be raised so that complex trauma survivors can understand the different parts of them who came in during the mis-treatment to mentally protect them and to have compassion for the circumstances they lived through instead of judge their coping behaviors as bad. Change is always possible and abundant life is attainable once truth is known.