Our society has been overtaken by codependency because it always takes root generationally. When we need to persuade, influence or control others so that our internal emotions can calm down, we have lost our self. We are not responsible for how others behave or react to our behavior because everyone misbehaves at times. To recognize that shoving your feelings or expression because you don’t want to upset the other is abuse, it will allow you to seek better relationships. Breaking the bonds of codependency will take practice and intention to not only draw boundaries, but to get your voice back.

You do not have to remain silenced or behave better in order for someone to love you, in fact, you must forgive yourself for believing such lies that have kept you bound and then you can get to know yourself. I bet you will discover just how much you can fill your own love tank and deposit wherever you choose to for growth to come forth. Then you will be able to go back in time and re-nurture the little child within who still desperately needs to be replenished from the compounded years of depleted affirmation. Each of us will give account of our own walk through life when we go home to meet our maker, and that includes taking back the past with love that transcends time.